Rosanna Davidson’s announcement of the birth of her twins has just filled me to the brim with happiness and utter elation for her & her family. What a journey they have been on. A long, difficult, painful journey.
And now here they are, with two little bundles of joy to add their gorgeous family.
Reading her post also brought my mind straight to the countless women & families who are still on that same journey.
They don’t know when their journey will end. They probably don’t even know IF it will end.
All they do know is the destination they are trying to reach.
A destination so many of us take for granted.
We spend our younger years doing our best to avoid pregnancy. We never think about the fact that it might not happen that easily. Some of us never have to think about it, because it does happen that easily. Others spend years of their lives struggling to conceive, struggling to make it to 40 weeks, often without answers or solutions.
They are on the real journey.
My eyes have been opened in recent years as to the vast amount of couples who struggle with fertility and pregnancy. It’s actually baffling to me how widespread these issues are. I almost wrote “nowadays” at the end of that sentence, but of course it was always the same, people just never knew why, or people just presumed the couple in question chose not to have a family.
Through conversations with many many women in recent months and years, I have come to learn so much about infertility, IVF, and the vast world of information & knowledge that goes with all of it.
Not many people know anything of any significance about the processes involved. From testing, diagnosing, tablets, injections, IUI’s, egg retrieval, embryo freezing, embryo testing, embryo transfers, two week waits, the list is endless. Why would you know if you never needed to?
But I think we should educate ourselves a bit more.
We need to be able to support those around us as they travel on these journeys.
They may not want our support, we may not even know that they need support, but we still need to be educated & understand what they are going through.
Maybe the journey doesn’t involve IVF. There could be any number of things going on in a couple’s life. They could be on any kind of journey.
We need to be mindful of our words, and our seemingly harmless questions and comments about reproducing. It’s simply not our business. You will hear news when there is news to hear, or news the couple wants to share.
Don’t be THAT person.
To the women and families who are on their journeys towards motherhood and parenthood; anything is possible. Even when you feel like the odds are stacked against you, don’t lose hope. Miracles do happen. Keep the faith. Stick together. Stay honest with each other. Find a person or people who you can completely open up to, and ugly cry to as often as necessary!
Look at Rosanna and her babies.
You might feel like a drowning in a puddle of your own tears, wondering why it isn’t you. Well some day it could well be you.
Don’t lose hope.
Continue on your journey.
Miracles do happen.